Do you have a mantra?
“I know what I am doing!
I know what I am going to talk about!
So they should listen to me!”
Way back in college, every time I need to report on something, I would always go inside the restroom, and recite those lines to myself. I would turn around in place several times (with my eyes close) convincing myself that “I was good with what I was doing”. Convincing myself that “I had a good story to tell”. I would tell myself that “I had prepared” and “I was ready to answer any questions”.
I would turn several times until I felt that I was convinced and confident… about myself and what I was about to say.
Who would not need convincing themselves, if your college classmates were far more brilliant than you. Or, who were ready to pounce to point a better idea than what you were presenting. Of course, I always do my homework every time I need to report in front, so it was not really believing in nothing.
I remember that one major report in my Marketing class. I was part of the group who presented a proposed marketing strategy for “Vicks VapoDrop“. My classmates were hesitant to accept our ideas, so they started pouncing on our group. My group mates were looking at me because they knew that I would always face challenges head-on. So I brazened myself, pulled my tricks out of my hat, and addressed clarifications and suggestions the best way I could.
Our group did well…
We were advised that we got the highest grade for the class presentation in that project. Of course, it was a group effort. Kudos to the brilliance of my beautiful group mates whose names I will not mention. What I would like to point out, however, is that I was able to do my part well in that class project because I had convinced myself to believe (and be confident) in what I had prepared and what I can do.
Friends, in everything that you do, you will encounter people who will challenge your ideas and suggestions. This could happen at workplace, in your sports team or even your church groups. Don’t think that because you feel that an idea is good (after your research and analysis) everyone will deliver their agreement in a silver platter.
The world is not built like that.
We have different backgrounds or social context. We should expect that there will always be people who will question our ideas or even our integrity.
That is a given.
What you should do aside from preparing physically is mental preparation — BELIEVE IN YOUR IDEA. If you have doubts about your ideas, then ask yourself why and find the answer to your questions. Note that you can never totally remove your doubts, so if you have really good hunch about an idea, then CONVINCE YOURSELF.
Try reciting my mantra. Or better yet, create your own mantra. Recite this before a presentation or anytime you feel the need to boost your confidence. It can really help. Believe me.
Challenges will be hard if you are not confident with your ideas or with yourself.
Important note: believing and convincing yourself about an idea is not a ticket to face opposition with arrogance and being dismissive. You have to tackle all politely, and be open to considering other ideas as well.